Sunday, August 8, 2010

I wrote today on My Searching for Forgiveness Blog about Warren and I still think of those days last August when we lost Warren. The strange thing is that in the last two years we have lost Velna, Warren and Lynn and the losses have affected all of us. Sometimes we do well with expressing our grief and sometimes we do this poorly. To lose three people in a family in such a short time is more than difficult.

So I choose most of the time to think of the great times we had with Mama and Daddy Cooper.

I will never forget the day they got home from Puerto Rico and Daddy looked at Lynn for the first time in her curls. He said "What kind of hair do you have?"and she,8 months old, said "Curdy". Or Velna, the day that she was making jelly at our old house and she dropped the vat of blackberry juice on that old light blue linoleum. She broke down in tears and I wanted to run instead of helping her clean it all up. Or Warren, shooting off fireworks on the 4th of July and

putting a lit sparkler in Mama's face. She thought it would burn her up.

Such wierd thoughts from a wierd person who loved all three of them and wish I had done a better job of letting them know that. I hope that they did and I think that they did. Now I need to reach out to the people who are left to carry on. There are so many people who are hurting and don't now what to do to ease the pain. Staying away does not ease the pain; it prolongs the healing. I should have learned that with Bill Stacy but I am a stubborn learner.